learn mandarin hong kong – Faced with negative people

 

Mandarin Lesson

Faced with negative people

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

如果你想有效對付那些負能量的人,成為正能量的擁護者,最好的辦法就是採取下面的這些措施。

Rúguǒ nǐ xiǎng yǒuxiào duìfù nàxiē fù néngliàng de rén, chéngwéi zhèng néngliàng de yǒnghù zhě, zuì hǎo de bànfǎ jiùshì cǎiqǔ xiàmiàn de zhèxiē cuòshī.

1. Limit the time you spend with them

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

限制和他們相處的時間
首先我們要明白這一點。你可能比卡通人物還要積極樂觀,但即使這樣,你的激情還是有可能被某位朋友的持續負能量所折磨。
事實上,負能量會損害你的健康,讓你容易受到壓力過大甚至心臟疾病的侵害,這一點已經被證實了。我們沒有理由因為他人的壞情緒而受到傷害。
雖然做到這一點要根據你自身的情況,可能會有點難辦。但試著少和負能量的人相處會防止你自己的精神也受到影響。

Xiànzhì hé tāmen xiāngchǔ de shíjiān
Shǒuxiān wǒmen yào míngbái zhè yīdiǎn. Nǐ kěnéng bǐ kǎtōng rénwù hái yào jījí lèguān, dàn jíshǐ zhèyàng, nǐ de jīqíng háishì yǒu kěnéng bèi mǒu wèi péngyǒu de chíxù fù néngliàng suǒ zhémó.
Shìshí shàng, fù néngliàng huì sǔnhài nǐ de jiànkāng, ràng nǐ róngyì shòudào yā lì guo dà shènzhì xīnzàng jíbìng de qīnhài, zhè yīdiǎn yǐjīng bèi zhèngshíle. Wǒmen méiyǒu lǐyóu yīnwèi tārén de huài qíngxù ér shòudào shānghài.
Suīrán zuò dào zhè yīdiǎn yào gēnjù nǐ zìshēn de qíngkuàng, kěnéng huì yǒudiǎn nán bàn. Dàn shìzhe shǎo hé fù néngliàng de rén xiāngchǔ huì fángzhǐ nǐ zìjǐ de jīngshén yě shòudào yǐngxiǎng.

 

 2. Speak up for yourself

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.
為自己發聲
不要只是默默吸收了你不停聽到的那些評論,尤其當它們和你有關時。聰明的做法是快速傾聽,慢慢說話。但是如果太沉默,給人的印象就是你已經接受了他們所說的話。

Wèi zìjǐ fāshēng
Bùyào zhǐshì mòmò xīshōule nǐ bù tíng tīng dào dì nàxiē pínglùn, yóuqí dāng tāmen hé nǐ yǒuguān shí. Cōngmíng de zuòfǎ shì kuàisù qīngtīng, màn man shuōhuà. Dànshì rúguǒ tài chénmò, jǐ rén de yìnxiàng jiùshì nǐ yǐjīng jiēshòule tāmen suǒ shuō dehuà.

 3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

 不要假裝他們的表現沒問題
這是一個很容易掉入的陷阱。要向這些人指出他們持續的負能量不是一件好事。我們不想這樣做是因為讓別人沉浸在他們的痛苦之中要容易得多,我們更願意置身事外。
但如果你為了他們好,就不要給他們這個錯誤的印象,讓他們以為自己的負能量是正常的。

Bùyào jiǎzhuāng tāmen de biǎoxiàn méi wèntí
Zhè shì yīgè hěn róngyì diào rù de xiànjǐng. Yào xiàng zhèxiē rén zhǐchū tāmen chíxù de fù néngliàng bùshì yī jiàn hǎoshì. Wǒmen bùxiǎng zhèyàng zuò shì yīnwèi ràng biérén chénjìn zài tāmen de tòngkǔ zhī zhòng yào róngyì de duō, wǒmen gèng yuànyì zhìshēnshìwài.
Dàn rúguǒ nǐ wèile tāmen hǎo, jiù bùyào gěi tāmen zhège cuòwù de yìnxiàng, ràng tāmen yǐwéi zìjǐ de fù néngliàng shì zhèngcháng de.