How to make Children Like Learning languages (If they don’t)

How to make Children Like Learning languages (If they don't)

How to Make Children Like Learning languages (If they don’t)

What if your child is not very actively learning foreign languages? What if they are reluctant to take any language classes? We believe that parents are using the wrong methods to teach or guide their children if those happened.

All parents want their children to learn languages well, because it is so important for their future life, but there are certain conditions to make it success for good learning. One of the conditions is that children’s learning is active not passive. In order to form a good state of children’s active learning, parents should pay attention to the following techniques.

1. Avoid Always Urging Children to Study.Avoid Always Urging Children to Study

Always being urged to study, children will become very passive when learning languages, and over time, they will lose the initiative to study. Appropriate reminders and supervision are necessary, but supervision is ultimately for the children to learn on their own initiative, so supervision can only be appropriate, and must pay attention to methods.

For example, if the child has been playing for a long time, the parent can say: “When are you going to do your homework?” Remind the child to arrange their own learning. If the parent always orders every day: “It’s time to do the homework, don’t play!” The child has will lose their initiative and feeling upset.

2. Don’t Compare Your Children to Other Children. 

Some parents like to compare, how can other people’s children be so smart? Your classmate get 100 scores, how can you get such a low score? If parents always tell their children in this way, the child gradually forms the mentality of “I’m stupider than others”, and even produces the negative emotion of “mother doesn’t like me”. Therefore, if you want to make your kids learning the language, please don’t compare to other people, consider your child’s actual situation. Now that your child can get 60 points in the language test, 70 points is a more suitable target. Don’t ask your own children to take the test just because other children can get 100 points.

Parents must recognize this difference. Every child is different and has different learning abilities.

In the past, parents didn’t pay attention to it and children didn’t develop good study habits. Now, don’t compare other people’s children! Life is very long, if you can’t do it now, just work hard, eventually your children can get it. Learning ability is accompanied by a person’s life, it’s never too late to change!

3. Don’t Set the Goal too High.

Recognize the difference, don’t set unattainable goals! Therefore, we can first set up a small short-term goal with our children, and the goal is premised on the fact that it can be achieved through hard work. Then work with your child to develop a study plan and supervise its implementation. When the goal is achieved, formulate the next goal that can be achieved through hard work, and can also be rewarded at the same time. Through the process of continuous effort, realization, re-effort, and re-realization, the child’s confidence is gradually established.

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4. Be a role model and accompany.

If you want your children to be successful in language learning, you must be their model, for example, you can read book before your children, and make them curious about reading, since reading is one of the best ways to learn a language for children.

There is a popular saying: first-class parents are role models, second-class parents are coaches, and third-class parents are nanny.

When children are studying, parents should create a good learning environment. Instead of watching TV, brushing mobile phones, or dancing, they should accompany their children to study! So how to accompany it? For example, parents accompany their children to do homework. If the parents are big tigers, the children are little white rabbits, and a tiger supervises a little rabbit, the little white rabbit must be afraid of doing homework.

And when the parents are also a little white rabbit and accompany another little white rabbit to do homework, then the little white rabbit will feel that he is accompanied and supported, so he can do the homework happily.

5. Make Children Taste the Sweetness of Study.

To improve children’s enthusiasm for learning, they must first taste the taste of success. If the children are discouraged and disappointed, they will never make progress. For example, when a child is good in Chinese language but poor in mathematics, when doing homework, let him do the Chinese homework first, and then do the math homework; if the procedure is reversed, not only will the math homework be bad, but even their language skill will not be improved.

When doing math homework, also let your child do easy problems first to build confidence, and then let him do more difficult problems. In the test, but also to warn children to put the easy first and then the difficult, which can not only enhance confidence, but also overcome the fear of exams. Generally, the whole test paper is generally read first, and the easy test questions are done first, followed by the difficult ones. Because this can eliminate the mental tension in the test, it is easier to start the test questions, and you can often get better test results.

6. Cultivate a Sense of Achievement in Learning.

Why now, many children like to play mobile games, because games can bring a sense of achievement to children! If we let children find a sense of achievement in learning, I believe they will love learning!

To give children a sense of achievement, our parents should learn to encourage them. For example, when children think independently and finish the task, parents should give them some encouragement.

See: How Parents Can Teach Their Children to Learn English

7. Develop a Sense of Responsibility for Learning.

Many parents are overly involved in the responsibility of their children (for example, parents ask their children to start their homework over and over again, and then check their homework question by question, asking the child to correct each question).

The result is that you get full marks or high marks for every assignment you hand in, but can you say it’s your child’s homework? When you take the responsibility of the child into your own, the child thinks that the study is for the parents, and the study is not my responsibility.

Poor handwriting, wrong grammar, wrong spelling, sometimes forget to do homework, or go home with a bad grade in exam is inevitable experience for children. If parents get angry, complain, urge and scold, not only will the child’s energy be consumed in dealing with the negative emotions caused by these, but also will deepen the child’s boredom and fear of learning, and hinder the child’s sense of responsibility and initiative in learning. develop.

8. Control Study Time.

Parents or teacher must control time of study. Because children’s attention span is not long, such as children aged 8-11 should not exceed 50 minutes. If you do homework for a long time, there must be about 10 minutes of rest in the middle to let the child stretch his muscles and bones. Some young parents do not understand the length of time their children can concentrate, and do not arrange the time for their children to do homework according to the time when their children can concentrate on things. The result is not only detrimental to the child’s health, but also makes the child bored with homework, not to mention improving the child’s learning interest and enthusiasm for learning.

9. Make self-discipline a habit.Make self-discipline a habit

Since most children like to play by nature, it is difficult to control themselves in terms of self-discipline, so in the initial stage of habit formation, it is best for parents and children to jointly formulate a study plan, what time and what to study each day. In this way, when the child is having a good time, you let him study or do homework, which will arouse his disgust, and thus cause his negative emotions about learning.

If there is a learning plan, parents and children can prepare for learning with their children before learning, so that children can accept learning psychologically. In the early days of the plan, parents may need to supervise and manage them. Gradually, after a habit is formed, the child knows what to do, and the parents can let go.

10. Find a Great Language Tutor for them.

As parents, we must instill in our children that their teachers are good teachers, and teachers like his words. Because if a child likes the teacher and respects the teacher, then he will concentrate on listening to the teacher’s lectures.

Since he is attentive to the lecture, he can naturally grasp the content of the teacher’s lecture. Even if there is something he doesn’t understand, he is willing to ask the teacher. The teacher naturally likes it, concentrates on listening to the class, and asks the students who do not understand. This creates a virtuous cycle.

No matter how the teacher looked at him in the past, he would become liked because of it. When the child can really feel the teacher’s love and attention to him, then he will like the subject even more.

The children of friends, she likes their English teacher very much. As long as the English teacher gives lessons, she will listen carefully. Her parents never bothered about her English classes, and her English grades have always been very good.

Teachers’ evaluation of students will have a huge impact on students’ learning, especially for children in junior high school. A word from a teacher may change a child’s academic performance.


To let children generate internal driving force to learn actively, we must start with solving children’s ideological problems. The key lies in the cooperation of parents and teachers. We expounded the methods of cultivating children’s learning motivation. I hope that parents can find a solution that is suitable for their children based on the actual problems of their children! Learn family education, be smart parents, and cultivate excellent children!