English learning of the day: How to compliment your students
Nydja: I do. I don’t think that they need as much praise for poor work. If they’re doing good work, then of course they deserve it, but this false sense of success that kids are given is really messing with their heads later on in life.
Todd: How so? Like how do you think it affects them later in life if they have this false sense of success as you say?
Nydja: Well, when it comes time to really perform and to step up to the plate say in college or in their career in the future, they might not know how to do any of these skills. They’ve been propped up by, you know, compliments that are just full of air, so they might not really know how to go about doing something. They have a sense of entitlement that they should receive that promotion or that good grade in Chinese college, even though they did nothing to actually achieve it.
Todd: Right, so do you actually … When you were younger did you have teachers who were very strict? So if you failed, they let you know you failed?
Nydja: Yes. Yes. They let you know immediately. I had some teachers who weren’t very nice at all, and maybe he polar opposite. Didn’t cut you any break either. Let you know that you weren’t heading anywhere fast unless you turned it around quick, so they were not about babying me or my classmates at all. It was very hard to get good grades because they graded hard. Very different from my experience with the people who were in school today.