How to carry out sex education in Chinese families?

sex education in China
Sex Education

Sex related topics are not taboo in China anymore, however, many Chinese parents are still facing dilemmas when it comes to sex education at home.

In a sex education class for primary school parents in Dujiangyan, southwest China’s Sichuan province, a mother is sharing her embarrassing yet funny story of talking to her son about sex.

“My son always ask me ‘where do I come from’, I just tell him he spent 10 months in my belly before the doctor picked him out, and he will ask, ‘How did I get into your belly? Did you swallow me?’ I had to tell him his father put him inside. Then his question continues, ‘Where did my father find me and how he put me in your body?’ I just don’t know how to explain that to him. Other questions may be like “Why daddy and I can pee standing up, but you have to pee squatting? ” And my husband would say, ‘Oh my boy, it’s just a national regulation.'”

In answering one of the most common questions children may have before puberty, many Chinese parents still shy away from facing it due to a self-restrained traditional cultural background.

Dr. Chen Zhongdan, strategic information adviser of UNAIDS says parents play a vital role in promoting sexual health education here in China, as well as building a more tolerant, equal and open society.

“Many parents avoid talking about sex with their children, and this is deeply rooted in the country’s traditional culture. Mostly, their sexual concept is binary instead of polybasic, also the traditional idea of ‘one should carry on the family line’ leads to a relatively low acceptance of homosexuality. Homosexuals are facing higher pressure from family and society, and many of them lack the scientific knowledge of safe sex. Therefore, sex education is crucial here.”

Latest statistics suggest that among all the new infections of HIV/AIDS, 94% are caused by sexual transmission. Heterosexuals accounts for some 67% of these cases while homosexual 27% and the proportion is growing in large and medium-sized cities.

Zhang Yinjun, the co-founder of the AIDS Prevention & Education Project for China’s Youth or known as APEPCY for short, says scientific sex education should include all aspects of the subject.

“A proper sexual value includes sexual responsibility, gender consciousness, sex culture and scientific health. All these aspects contribute to protecting people from disease infection. Dealing with issues such as teenagers abortion, sexual abuse, and other emotion-related issues, is also part of our job.”

Starting from 2006, APEPCY has been co-operating with local schools in providing AIDS prevention and sex education classes targeting different groups of people including students of different ages, parents and teachers. Zhang Yinjun says one of their successes is to have informed parents on the importance of scientific sex education, and more and more parents have already benefitted from it and have been providing their support to sex education.

Insiders say sex education in China is still at its earlier stage, but a brighter future can be guaranteed if more parents can participate with an attitude and scientific mindset as more active school education is underway.

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How to Deal with an arrogant boss?

How to Deal with an arrogant boss

Craig Malkin: If you’re dealing with a boss who is just sort of arrogant and can be aloof and difficult to deal with, there are two approaches that are very effective. One is that any time they show any capacity for caring or concern, say, for example, they give you some encouragement. You really want to jump on that. Ignore the advice about stroking your boss’s ego for what they’ve done. That actually, according to research, makes them worse. It makes them more destructive. But if you focus your intentions on those moments to say to your boss something like, “I really appreciated the encouragement you gave me yesterday. It helped me get to the finish line.” That kind of feedback, that is a way of connecting with your boss and really helping them warm up to you a little bit and can actually reduce their narcissistic tendencies.


The other thing to keep in mind is if you are looking for a promotion. If you are approaching a boss who’s narcissistic, this isn’t going to be like the average boss who’s maybe thinking about the whole system or organization, so you want to make sure you frame whatever plan you’re bringing to them, you want to make sure that you are appealing to what’s in it for them? That’s the first thing you want to make sure that you’re answering as a question. You want to be able to say, “Look. If I do this, I know you’ve been looking for growth in the company, I can bring that to you. If you put me in this position, I can bring that to the table for you. So I think it’d make sense to give me this opportunity.”


End of the year, what should you tell you boss?

End of the year, what should you tell you boss?

what should i tell my boss



Do you have a competitive colleague who usually keeps you at arm’s length?


Asking engaging questions is by far the best approach here. How about asking why they decided to attend or what they’re looking forward to that week?


Keep things short and sweet and don’t fall into the trap of talking too much. Sometimes it is wise to mirror the other person’s pace of conversation.


If you are met with out and out silence, then at least you’ve tried. Never feel awkward about silence, conversation is a two-way street but it helps to have some conversation points prepared in case.




In large companies you might find yourself thrown together with people you’ve never met or barely spoken to before.


It may sound obvious but introduce yourself really clearly, ask their name and repeat it often to have a better chance of remembering it.


Although it can, and often does sound a little awkward at first, once you’re over this molehill the conversation will flow much better.


Smiling through the conversation will put the other person at ease and it’ll make them feel comfortable and realise that you are actually interested in what they are saying. You should always make eye contact too. Remember that they may be just as nervous as you too, so there’s never a real need to worry.




If you’re in a social situation with your boss, keep it casual and don’t get into work conversations at a party.


Stay respectful though and don’t approach if intoxicated – especially if you have issues you want to air – alcohol will act as a truth serum that you’ll regret.


But above all be yourself. Don’t feel you have to stay overly formal just because it’s your boss. All bosses are just people too.




In this situation, be aware of your body language. An open stance with the right amount of space between you and them is important.


Listening is key here too, it’ll make you look and feel confident if you are engaged.


Keep a natural amount of eye contact and remember to be yourself – don’t let someone else sap your confidence.


A great tip if you are really anxious is to imagine a clear barrier or wall between you, which is your confidence protector – using this technique will keep your self-confidence intact. An awkward conversation shouldn’t change your whole day, so hang on to your confidence using the wall.




No talking about the weather! Please. I know this can be an ice breaker but come on – it’s dull.


Refrain from excusing yourself or putting yourself down – this is no way to have a decent conversation with anyone and all it does is put you in a position of weakness.


Steer clear of gossip and slating others. Tongues get loose when alcohol is involved and it’s always a regret the next day!




Talk about your passions; music, work, news.


Make sure the other person is involved in the conversation so it’s not just you talking for example ’I’ve just come back from France on holiday, where have you been this year?’


Always be interested in the other person. Make them the focus and you’ll be remembered for making others feel good and interesting. Always compliment, but make it genuine!


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What Is True Love? These 7 Signs That You Have Found It

What Is True LoveThe beginning stages of a relationship can feel very vulnerable. Maybe you’ve been betrayed or burned in the past and doubt your judgement about whether this guy is for real–or not! Here are seven guiding signs to see clearly through the clouds of vulnerability and determine if he truly loves you:


1. He values you knowing your value.


I could tell my friend James really valued and loved his girlfriend, Claire. James knew, in a healthy way, about the details of her life. He knew about her family background, likes and dislikes, and her accomplishments. James was thrilled when Claire got an outstanding review at her job. And, even though Claire’s job entailed her having to travel and cut into their time together, he let her know that he was behind her all the way.


2. He wants you to be part of his future plans.


Does he make references to upcoming events and ask if you are available or willing to join him? Linda, a thirty year old client of mine, beamed with excitement when telling me her boyfriend had invited her to his upcoming family get together? Does he joke about how your future children may look? If he is in to you then he is also wanting you in–big time–as part of his future.


3. You are his priority.


In the words of Elaine, a female colleague of mine, “When a man values and loves you, you know you are high up on his list of priorities.” Does he make spending time with you a priority? Do you feel like the most important person is his life?


4. He is happy that you’re happy.


Ted, a male client of mine, when discussing with me his thirty years of long lasting love for his wife, shared with me, “Her happiness is my happiness too!” A man who loves you will avoid doing things that make you unhappy. Whether is it going to a botanical garden, taking dance lessons, going to a sports event, or rubbing your feet, he will learn the things will make you happy, and he’ll make an effort to do those things.


5. He values you missing him and he misses you when you’re apart.


Does he appreciate that you miss him? Does he miss you? Does he make an effort to reach out? This doesn’t mean he is constantly thinking about every molecule of your being! That would be an unhealthy obsession. On the healthy side, however, is him texting to see how you are doing. Perhaps he may send you a work related article of value or a funny joke he found online.


6. He goes out of his way for you.


Joan, a forty-five year old physician, had tears of joy when telling me about her boyfriend who drove thirty miles out of his way to make sure she felt safe when leaving work on a night she had to work unusually late. Is he there for you when there is a problem? True love is about meeting needs of the other person.


7. His ego is your friend, not your enemy


Tony, a thirty-three year old rising executive, felt pride in being able to turn off his corporate ego and admit when he is wrong with wife, Leah. Love means engaging in self-reflection rather than self-love when you have to reach deep inside and admit that you are wrong.


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Tell you something you don’t know about Pizza

Tell you something you don't know about Pizza


Just hearing the word “pizza” brings a smile to the face of just about every American. Whatever style or variety — from thick, Chicago-style deep-dish pizza stuffed with gobs of cheese, sausage, and pepperoni to a thin-as-a-cracker crust topped with veggies — pizza invariably makes it to the top of “favorite food” lists.

Here, we’ve compiled a list of fun and interesting facts about this American food icon. See how many you knew!

1. Since 1987, October has been officially designated National Pizza Month in the United States.

2. Approximately three billion pizzas are sold in the United States every year, plus an additional one billion frozen pizzas.

3. Pizza is a $30 billion industry in the United States.

4. Pizzerias represent 17 percent of all US restaurants.

5. Ninety-three percent of Americans eat pizza at least once a month.

6. Women are twice as likely as men to order vegetarian toppings on their pizza.

7. About 36 percent of all pizzas contain pepperoni, making it the most popular topping in the United States. (U.S. dollar continued its weakness)

8. The first known pizzeria, Antica Pizzeria, opened in Naples, Italy, in 1738.

9. More pizza is consumed during the week of the Super Bowl than any other time of the year.

10. On average, each person in the United States eats around 23 pounds of pizza every year.

11. The first pizzeria in the United States was opened by Gennaro Lombardi in 1895 in New York City.

12. The record for the world’s largest pizza depends on how you slice it. According to Guinness World Records, the record for the world’s largest circular pizza was set at Norwood Hypermarket in South Africa in 1990. The gigantic pie measured 122 feet 8 inches across, weighed 26,883 pounds, and contained 9,920 pounds of flour, 3,968 pounds of cheese, and 1,984 pounds of sauce. In 2005, the record for the world’s largest rectangular pizza was set in Iowa Falls, Iowa. Pizza restaurant owner Bill Bahr and a team of 200 helpers created the 129 X 98.6-foot pizza from 4,000 pounds of cheese, 700 pounds of sauce, and 9,500 sections of crust. The enormous pie was enough to feed the town’s 5,200 residents ten slices of pizza each.

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Amazing Super Blue Blood Moon!

super blue blood moon



On January 31, you will be treated to both a visible supermoon—what we call a full moon at its closest orbital point to Earth—and a total lunar eclipse. As the second full moon of the month, it earns the title of a blue moon as well. The celestial coincidence hasn’t happened in more than 150 years. That means there were people who lived and died on this Earth without ever having had a chance to see this phenomenon, which won’t reappear again for another decade.


This supermoon also happens to be the final one in a supermoon trilogy—the first two of which appeared on Dec. 3 and Jan. 1.


A “supermoon” full moon sets over the RT-70 radio telescope in the village of Molochnoye, Crimea January 2, 2018. REUTERS/Pavel Rebrov


Visible supermoons appear 14% bigger and 30% brighter than full moons that occur at the farthest point in the moon’s orbit. During the eclipse, with totality visible from eastern Asia across the Pacific to western North America, the moon will slowly lose its brightness and take on a reddish hue because of the way the atmosphere bends the light, says NASA.


As a result, totally eclipsed moons are sometimes also called “blood moons.”



“蓝月”当然不是形容月亮的颜色。“蓝月”由英语“blue moon”直译而来,意为“罕见的事情”。天文学中,“蓝月”是一个月中的第二次满月,因相对罕见而被叫做“蓝月”。





Total Lunar Eclipse
A NASA graphic showcases a timeline for the upcoming eclipse.

When can I see the supermoon and total lunar eclipse?


The best time to enjoy a supermoon is right after moonrise and before sunrise, when the moon is sitting on the horizon. It will appear its biggest and brightest because of a “moon illusion” effect that’s created when you are able to compare the lunar body to other objects for scale, like buildings and foliage.


For the real highlight of the show, the lunar eclipse will begin at 6:48am ET and reach its maximum at 8:30am ET. Viewers from eastern Asia, the Pacific, and western North America will get the best view, but viewers in eastern North America and Europe will also catch a partial eclipse.


What’s the best way to photograph the lunar eclipse?


To take a picture of the supermoon or the lunar eclipse with a smartphone, tap on the moon on the screen and hold your finger in place to lock the camera’s focus. Then adjust the exposure slider that appears next to your finger to get the right balance of light for your shot.


If you’re using a DSLR, NASA’s senior photographer Bill Ingalls recommends that you use the daylight white balance to adjust for the sunlight being reflected off the moon. He says that it’s important to keep in mind that the moon is a moving object: “It’s a balancing act between trying to get the right exposure and realizing that the shutter speed typically needs to be a lot faster.”


To get an original shot, Ingalls suggests taking a picture that puts the moon in context of a local landmark, something that gives your photo a sense of place. “Don’t make the mistake of photographing the moon by itself with no reference to anything,” say Ingalls. “Everyone will get that shot.”


Do I need special glasses to watch the supermoon and lunar eclipse?



Unlike the solar eclipse, the supermoon and the lunar eclipse are safe to view with the naked eye. There’s nothing to worry about if you find yourself enthralled and staring up into the sky for a very long time. Except maybe your neck.




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U.S. dollar continued its weakness

US Federal Government

Much of the US Federal Government will remain shutdown in the start of the new working (Chinese News – china working class in Beijing)  week, after the Senate postponed the vote on the budget measure to reopen it to business. The vote is not expected at midday on Monday. David Wallis is in Washington.


Nonessential government staff here face a being-told-to-go-home and essential staff from military, prison service, they will continue to operate as normal. We are starting to see some signs of this coming into effect, the iconic Statue of Liberty was closed over the weekend. It was a closure of national parks and monuments that particularly urged people back in 2013 when the last government shutdown took place here and that was one that lasted 16 days actually, led to 800,000 government workers being placed on temporary leave.


The court in Vietnam has sent a former member of the Communist Party Politburo to prison for economic mismanagement. Dinh La Thang is a former chairman of the state oil company PatroVietnam. Jonathan Head reports.


Ever since the conservative faction of the Communist Party gained control of the Politburo at the last Party Congress 2 years ago, it has pursued officials thought to become unusually wealthy during the decade-long tenure of ousted Prime Minister Nguyen Tan Dung. Dinh La Thang has been given a 13-year prison sentence. He is the most senior official so far to be caught up in the anticorruption sweep. Widely publicized, the trial offered Vietnam people the spectacle of once untouchable figures weeping and pleading for leniency.


Turkey state news agency says the army captured several villagers in northwest Syria on Sunday on the first day of its ground offensive against the Kurdish militia group, the YPG. It’s said troops met no resistance as they moved into the Afrin region. The YPG said the group repelled the Turkish upon heavy fighting. United States has urged Turkey to limit the duration and the scope of the operation against the Kurdish fighters who have been key US ally in the fight against Islamic State group.


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English lesson – at the bank report lose of card

at the bank

A: Welcome to IBJ Bank, how can we be of service?


B: I spoke to a girl named Claire on the phone; it’s about losing my card and everything.


A: What I need you to do first is fill in these forms, with as much detail as possible. Then we can get you a new card.


B: So, I can get my new card today?


A: I’m sorry, Sir, the full procedure can take up to 7 days to process everything.


B: 7 days! What am I supposed to do for money until then?


A: If you bring some ID with you it’s possible for you to make a withdrawal over the counter if you need to. But unfortunately, without your new card you cannot use the ATM, so all withdrawals must be made within working hours.

如果您带着身份证件的话您是可以在需要时到柜台办理取钱业务的。 但是,不幸的是,没有新卡您不能使用自动提款机,因此您只能在我们上班时取款。

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Learn English – Living in the Big Apple

New York City
New York City

Todd: Now, Mike, you lived in New York City. That’s really, really cool. I think New York’s a fantastic city. I’ve never lived there, but I visited New York many times. What was it like living in New York City?

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Mike: Uh, like you said, there’s a lot of cool things to do and see in New York. One big difference, when you’re living there, compared to when you’re visiting there, is that you start to feel like a New Yorker does, and it changes your sort of view point of the city and things to do there. Within the city, there’s a lot of different, interesting places, and things to do, and of course, when you live there, you find out about more places that you normally wouldn’t, either wouldn’t know about or wouldn’t have time to see if you were just visiting for a few days.


Todd: What did you do in New York city?


Mike: Well, I was there during the height of the internet boom, so I was working for an internet based company that was doing broadband web casting. I won’t go into details, but there was just an internet related company, and so I lived in Midtown Manhattan in an expensive apartment, with a few friends and it…


Todd: Oh, you had roommates?


Mike: Yes, I had three roommates, none of whom were from New York, which is very common in New York, I think. It’s a city of people who come from elsewhere to live in and the people from New York tend to, I think, sound and act a bit differently than the rest.


Todd: What was your favorite part of New York City?


Mike: Well, as you may know, New York is divided into several sectors, and I’ll stick to Manhattan though, one of the main boroughs in New York is Manhattan. In that borough, it’s divided into several sections, several areas. One of my favorite was Greenwich Village, and in that area there’s a lot of interesting clubs and bars and right next to there, in another area called the Bowery, which is right next to Greenwich Village there are some sort of old icons and places that I’d known from back in the seventies, that were sort of where Punk Rock started, for example, ah, those kind of places, were there.


Todd: You like Punk music?


Mike: Yeah, I do. I’m a big fan. Old guy that I am. Yes.


Todd: Oh, that’s cool. Um, could you ever live in New York City again?


Mike: Absolutely. I would live in New York, but, again it’s an expensive city to live in and I think it’s a very competitive city, and, yeah, if I had, if I had the opportunity I’d definitely live there again. I wouldn’t settle in New York, but I’d definitely live there for awhile.


Todd: Oh, cool. Thanks, Mike.


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